Of course any moves towards greater clearly democratic instructions in the EU would be seen as trying to turn it into a federal nation analogous to the US or India. The existing rather clunky system is a consequence of trying to avoid that while enabling communal harmony. It's a complicated business doing that, and there's room for improvements. It's work still to be done.

The "reforms" David Cameron failed to achieve weren't anthing to do with that, they were merely about getting further UK opt outs and exceptions.

As a citizen of another EU country I think I'd be pretty pleased to see the end of UK membership. Aside, that is, from the potential damage to Ireland arising from the special circumstances of the Northern Ireland involvement in the UK.

A Norway style deal makes a lot of sense, freeing the EU from the UK as members, and vice versa, but retaining a fair degree of harmonisation, and freedom of travel for both UK and EU citizens. And ending the troublesome fishery and agricultural policy links which underlay a fair chunk of the Leave vote.