One thing that happens is that, as I age, patterns I've followed become more obvious. I think it's necessary for survival is to realize I can quit beating myself up about ones I think are negative. I only wish I'd had help dealing with them when I was younger. Mostly, these are ADHD related, and there are more and better ways to deal these days...which nobody much cares about when you aren't a child.

I think Ebbie got to the most important thing: forgiving yourself.
We all have done some not-so-good things we can't undo. Regret is pretty useless, but understanding and forgiving can at least allow us to let those things go.