One huge impact that Mudcat has had on me is the realisation that some people are just not on my wavelength. I used to blame myself for not being able to understand but it is not that. It is no-ones fault. We just either speak a different language or think in different ways. Ne'er the twain shall meet! It all goes to make up the rich tapestry of life. Sadly, there are times when threads are pulled and the tapestry unravels but c'est la vie as they say in Wigan...