Thanks charmion. I think a factor this time was that the carers were around and I was in my room when the leg problem and loss of use of arm showed up but it’s also true that I can find dad difficult to try to assess.

It would probably be a lot easier with a normally able person. In my own experience, dad can stand up (with aids) first time, need a few attempts or even need a break before trying again. His handling is never the best and he uses a bib for meals but I’d have to decide that several bits from his plate plus a yoghurt pot all going on the floor is well beyond the “normal”. Working out whether someone who sometimes can get confused under stress/anxiety and tiredness makes it hard to decide out whether a bout of confusion is something to worry about, etc,

I suppose the carers do have the advantage of only seeing him at certain times of day and for specific tasks. Plus, of course they will have had (or should have had) training and experience I don’ have.