Hi Leeneia
I've been learning the Irish traditional flute for a while when I found the site below.
http://homepage.tinet.ie/~mandeflutes/Contents.htm
I came across the pages on holding the flute in the site and they helped me a lot.
http://homepage.tinet.ie/~mandeflutes/hands.htm
I hope this helps, its a good site and worth looking at. You might like to tune into the Blue Star Radio link and hear some good flute/whistle music
Mike