Good posts, interesting and thoughtful. I think you guys have clarified some of the issues. Sad to report that in the last couple of days, in a town near where I live, a gay man was beaten up. This is the story as was reported on the news last night: two men sitting at a bus stop waiting for a bus, holding hands, in the middle of the day. Man and woman across the street start hurling insults. Straight man eventually walks across road, and, urged on by the woman, proceeds to beat one of the gay men such that he ended up in hospital. Provocative gay behaviour? I think not. What about the role of the straight woman? Perhaps she was unsure of her boyfriends sexuality too??!!