Hello been there, been bruised. I know what you mean about using all your self-control to not to try to bring him back. I hope 'my' he would have the sense not to come back if I tried, but I'm not confident of that, so I can't see that any contact in the future can be possible. So a good friendship has been lost. What is stopping me is still selfish, because although I'm sad & miss him - I have more peace than I've been for months. Sometime in the future I hope I'll meet somebody else - but I will sure find out if he's married very early on. . Hello there right now, I hope you & your children are holding up. & I completely agree about the bizarreness. Too true. . Best wishes to both of you.