In our family, it was a bit backwards, my mom worked, my dad stayed home.And from them both I have a veritable fount of knowledge. For example, I can say that without stumbling. Mostly I learned by watching them. If my dad got upset, he went and complained, even if it was stupid like not getting napkins with his fries, you had to fight for your rights.(Big into the whole civil rights thing.) My mom does too, but much more politely, she doesn't act all offended. And people react better to her. So you might have to fight for your rights, but it doesn't hurt to be polite.(My dad said that too, but that doesn't meen he followed it. He wasn't real big on authority figures.)