Well, one of the best educators I ever had likened the whole situation to an infinite corridor, with many doors. After people stop having the right to push you around, you can peek into any one you want to, and if you like the company and the aesthetic furniture, you can wander in and stay awhile. Most of us hit a stage where we detect crap pretty quickly (and then go on, or remember where it is, or go in for a good wallow.) And someone's always a little further along than we are.