swirlygirl,
Some fair points.
However, if I was to suggest that you shouldn'd have been allowed to go to University, or should take a job washing dishes because you'd had a really difficult time for a few months, I doubt you'd agree.
At your age, I thought very much along those lines, thought that people who had 'lost it' should 'get a grip' etc.
10 years on, having gone through an awful time personally, I tend to be a little more compassionate.
Paul