I'm starting to feel like less of an island now!! At least some people can sort of see where I'm coming from.

It just seems to me that on this forum you can't state an opinion and have someone else state theirs, perhaps challenging yours, in any way other than as a personal attack. What's with that? It's a debate, it's not personal...

I still think fear is healthy. If we weren't afraid of certain things we'd have been fucked as a species a loooonnngg time ago...Being afraid gives you a sense of perspective of what NOT to be afraid of...ying and yang and all that.

Some people on here, and it's not a bad thing, seem to think that this world can exist on love alone, where everyone is good. I just don't think that's going to happen. Yes you can make it happen in your own little space around you but you can't do sod all about anyone else!

We need things from both ends of the spectrum in ALL things...it's just that I'd like it to lean a little more towards the genuine, honest and good, that's all...

And when I say fear is healthy, I don't necessarily mean fear of people. It's a fear of what your actions or their actions might do to someone, and not just violent actions.

Like you have to have a little fear of losing what you've got in order to learn to love it more. So you're in a relationship, you don't fear the person, but you do fear, even just a microscopic amount no matter how subconsciously, that they might do something to jeapordise the idyllic set up you have. It might not be something that to them would mean ANYTHING but to you it would cause litle cracks to appear in your world. So you realise how much you love the person, and remind yourself not to take them for granted. It's a fear of a sort that generates love.

You have a fear over how your child is going to grow up in the world and what will happen to him/her so you go out of your way to make things the best you can. So again good is a product of a fear...

Can you see where I'm coming from now?

I genuinely think, and please dont have a go at me for this, that now that religion has lost its place in people's lives, and we have no after life to fear, that there's little point in being "bad" in this world because there will be no eternal repercussions.

Now i don't mean to say that the institution of the church is a good thing...but the healthy fear of what might happen to you for eternity sure as damn kept me being good for years!! I still led a happy balanced life, and the fear/worry helped me along and sometimes made me be a little better than I had been cos it gives you a perspective and makes you think...

:)

xxx