Get real - you haven,t a clue.
The reason the church idiots are in this mess is because the thought like you are thinking.
Nobody accusses a cleric of sexual/physical/mental abuse unless they have been sexually/physically/mentally abused.
In fact most people in this position will not accuse because they feel in some way to blame - the abuser is an expert in assigning this guilt. (I know)
Can someone tell me why there are thousands (millions ?) of Canon Law rules (My Capitals !) and only 10 commandments.
Love thy bloody neighbour not thy bloody lawyer !