Thanks everyone for the concern, nurturing and good advice. The PMN looks great (will be looking more closely in a minute).

I'm taking deep breaths (Art!) chest still hurts a bit! Trying to do some rapid personality adjustments, i.e, I can still be caring/cooperative just don't also have to have "SUCKER" writ large across my forehead for some people to discern.

Yes, Pied Piper I'm in UK too and what is it? I walk about our town and there are all these people with 'dead' eyes - I can't recognise the Planet I grew up on. I think the difficulty is actually recognising who you're dealing with - people can be overtly aggressive without actually displaying it: postering in town - enthusiasm, acknowledgement, indifference, 'too busy', then the smooth reptilian 'I'm enchanted to help - give me one of your produced-at-no-mean-personal cost posters and I will ... throw it straight in the bin the second you leave.' (I mean why not just say 'No'?)

Anyway - onwards and upwards