I was in love with a friend of mine when I was in college but I never told him because I knew we'd be a bad pair. We had too many nonproductive traits in common (shyness, total lack of assertiveness, some other things) and not enough complementary strengths. We would have hid at home all the time. We live on opposite sides of the country now and I've gotten out of being in love with him and settled for just caring for him very much as a person; I'm not even sure I know him well enough any longer to call him a close friend. I was miserable at the time but now I'm glad I didn't put the both of us in an awkward place and risk spoiling a great music friendship.

I'm still attracted to guys who remind me of him, though, so I suppose I never did completely get over him.