Interesting thread here !

I am going to check out the books that mentioned animal / human behaviour. I find that really interesting, and I would love to study that, but have never come across a course that involves that.

Going back to the first message, I am wondering if it wasn't just that she had a strong fancy for you ? I am probably wrong ( please tell me .. ) but, while I can feel a strong urge to be with someone I " fancy" I could never ( seriously ) call that being in love.

I have only been in love with people that have at least kissed me !

No doubt I am wrong, and I suppose the fact that you two were friends maybe made it easier for the fact that she fancied you to become mixed up with the fact that she also loved you as a friend.