No guilt, Thomas, there never was. And not all in that set of advice is one story, it's an amalgam of a couple of things.

This thread has me thinking of friendships in the past when others said "So and so is really fond of you but is too shy to say anything," perhaps expecting that if I only knew, I might put the heartsick one out of their misery and get involved. One time in college a couple of friends of a guy were quite ardent that just what their friend needed was to get involved with me--he was still a virgin, they said, and somehow felt that their intervention was necessary for the well-being of their friend's love-life. I've never allowed myself to be seduced into those kinds of brokered relationships. They just look like trouble.

SRS