.... so are you and the potential roomie talking now to hammer out what you both need and want and hope for-- making a set of basic agreements? It's the unspoken expectations that create problems.

Sometimes the best resolution, when you are hearing, "No, I can't do that." ... is... "OK, thanks for letting me know, so I can be prepared to find a solution for myself about it." Instead of relying on someone else to comply with what you want, you can form a mental habit of trusting yourself to be creative enough to find a way to work with the situation from your own end of it. Otherwise, you might as well be living in a bubble of isolation.

This will not only be true about roommates.... it's an attitude of self-reliance you will have to cultivate in yourself, as well, in the work and social environment, and there is only so much control you can exert in these.

And all that depends on learning a new, higher level of trust and concern about yourself, as you continue to get better-- behaving as though you are actually much stronger than you feel like you are, because now you look forward, not backwards-- see?-- to assume your own survival, and make decisions and take action from that place.

~Susan