Hi Morticia: You are in fact quite right. In fact, here in the US, if the couple do not want to get married, there is not way the families can force a wedding. And, I know that others in the Cioba family have married against their parents choice, which remains an option here as well. One of the girls Aunts is one of the most accomplished Romani poets, perhaps of all time, and I have found them to be an accomplished and remarkable family.
Cheers
Larry