Kim, I am sorry to hear that about your friend. I would be just as angry as you, knowing that it might have been prevented. I get angry everytime I think of Rog smoking and eating too much of the bad things and the possible consequences. And, I get angry when I remember the doctor who told us both that by the time one sees something on a smoker's lungs, in an xray, it's too late to do anything anyway. THAT, above all else, leads to a fatalistic attitude, IMO, which keeps men from going to the doctor. I just hope and pray that Rog is like his tough French-Canadian ancestors and lives despite all of it.

Anyway, you bet men have tears in 'em, too!

kat