I agree that it is much harder and a lot more emotional and intellectual work not to hate, than to hate misophist. But I'm not just talking about not hating, I guess. I'm also talking about loving one's self first, aren't I? As you pointed out, not hating one's enemies requires a ton of work. And reaching a level of maturity as an adult, where loving acceptance of one's self and one's own human frailties becomes somewhat routine regardless of the stresses we face, is a ton of work. Personal experience has also taught me that it usually entails a good amount of pain and suffering too.

Maybe that is why it is so hard to maintain one's integrity over time. Enduring a good amount of pain and suffering isn't a choice many people choose to make, whether it is physical or psychic pain. And it is SO EASY to justify taking the easier way out of the pain, because you have a lot more company along that road, than you do the road to your own integrity. I don't feel like a saint about it though. It is actually fairly easy for me, because I'm a person who enjoys my solitude. So, while taking a stand for what I believe in (and I'm talking about taking a stand that results in negative consequences for me personally) is almost always really hard, for me, standing alone isn't so bad at all, because of the joy I find in solitude.

If that makes any sense.