I haven't been able to respond seriously because I don't really understand the question, but I'll try.

When I was young and full of ideas, my wife shocked me and impressed me by making no effort to impress me. She was an open book, intead of dressing up in intellectual positions or advertising allegiance to Deep-Sounding Things, she just told her personal stories. When she listened to one of my writer heros she said He gets on his little high horse doesn't he. When someone is trying to flirt with you, you don't have to respond in kind, just hold your ground, give a guy a chance to recognise you. Just because a guy wants to sound deep, doesn't mean he isn't.