Try and find people who won't be afraid of talking about the person. So many folk nowadays seem to be embarrassed by even mentioning the name, but, so I am told by friends in this situation, sometimes it's just nice to talk about the things they've said and done, to reminisce on good and bad times. They do live on in us - I still think about a friend's daughter who died of leukeamia four years ago and her memory brings a smile to my face. Her parents and I still swop stories about 'the little thug' and I don't feel that she will ever really go away. Don't worry about showing your feelings if you need to. Real friends will understand and accept.