I would like to echo what Kim C has just posted. Both my parents passed on last year. I was very close to my Father, who died at 94. I visited him in the nursing home daily. I was holding his hand when he went. I actually saw his spirit leave.

As there was NOTHING left unsaid between us, my grieving was comfotable. Today, almost one year later, I miss him terribly and I am overcome at times.

I expect that your loss and bereavement will be difficult, because it was so sudden and unexpected, I gather. You might consider a special, and private, ceremony where you can deal with, and state, all those unsaid things.

Hope this helps. Bob