I have a lousy attitude to death in the first place. We all gotta go - why the fuss? I talk to me dad (& g/parents) from time to time, just the same as if they were still around (even if it is a bit one-sided - treat it like a letter!).

I never bothered much when they went. They had a good run for their money, they did the best they could before they did, there are people still that knew them & regret their passing. Can you ask for more than that?