pdc - Actually, no. I've had friends who've died young, etc. Admittedly, I have no children, nor even a partner. Nevertheless, I think I would take the same basic attitude, because it's the way I am.

We all gotta go. The two certain things in life are birth & death. If you're really unlucky, that comes out in the wrong order (no, I'm not being tongue in cheek). If people think well of you after you've gone, your time wasn't wasted. If you can think well of someone after they've left, why mourn? It's sad they're not here, but would they want you to make yourself bloody miserable about their absence?! Doubt it.

I ain't saying I'm right. I'm right for me only. But it's a point of view worth considering, I hope...