Sin - I'm with you - same age, single - no cats. I would say that CY's atitude to relationships probably would turn a lot of women off. I can't think of many women of my acquaintance who would want to be thought of as primarily available for the sexual gratification of her partner - been there and didn't like it.

Making love is the closest one person will ever get, physically, to another. I just think that you need to be pretty close, emotionally, to another person to really make that work. And, Kendall - I understand what you're saying about volcanoes - I agree, but there's more than one way to skin a cat if, for any reason the normal avenues aren't available and I can think of a couple of my friends in relationships who, for one reason or another, can't have intercourse but who do manage to have satisfying sex lives.

I would love to find the guy that I could really feel happy spending the rest of my life with, and yes, I miss a physical relationship, but so far it hasn't happened and I have to accept that the likelihood probably reduces as I get older. But I ain't going to pretend to be something I'm not just for company.