I don't contribute more because I just don't feel like I can say anything or do anything that might help. I read every word that gets posted in this thread though, and I think of you. Now, it's both of you.
I honestly have no idea what you both must have gone and be going through, other than what's posted here. If internet hugs aren't too cheap, you both have them. I give 'em in real life and you've got all you want in whatever form I can give 'em.