Well, Mathew...first, don't let her read that you've labeled her a terrified psycho!:-) It will send her completely bonkers, she will weep, yell, throw things at you, sob, laugh, well the hormones will really kick in!

My daughter had to spend 19 weeks of the last half of her pregnancy with twin boys last year, while her husband went to work everyday. He put an ice chest by the bed, made her breakfast in bed, put her lunch & snacks in the cooler, did everything and made her feel so special and cared for. That is the first thing to do, which I am sure you've done.

As for movies, comedies might be best, as long as they don't have too many poignant scenes. If she likes foreign films, The Visitors (French) is hilarious and definitely makes one forget the situation they may be in. What about some of the classics? What are her likes and dislaikes. Have you looked at the WOOFIEST WORST MOVIE thread? There are some good non-recommends to go by in there. Does she like the internet? Is it possible for her to have a computer at the bedside? There should be several sites which give tips on how to cope with these situations. I know there is a nationwide support group for mothers of multiples which I put my daughter in touch with, so I am sure there would be one for moms-to-be who have to rest easy.

I had about a week of bedrest midway through my second pregnancy, that of the daughter mentioned above. I love to read, but even that got to me and it was in the days before vcr's, so with only one tv channel available, I read A LOT!

Most of the movie companies have wesbites which you could visit, read up on whatever movies they have available by video and that might help you decide which ones to rent for her. How about books on tape? Does she do any kind of craft? Knit, cross stitch, paint, bead, write? Get her a bunch of tools and supplies for something of that sort. How about letter writing? Short stories of her life or yours or made up stories to read to the kid later on? Sewing quilt squares for a baby blanket? Do you have friends who would take turns on a schedule to come visit with her. Would she want them to?

How about instructional videos for something she's been wanting to learn to do?

Right now, it must be very scary for her and for you. Try to make her feel as safe as possible and try to make sure she doesn't feel as though she's done something wrong to cause this. When a person has to be so still, their mind can take off on tangents of guilt etc. and those they love need to offer as much support and love as possible.

And, both of you, talk to, sing to your baby. Let him/her knwo how much you love it and want it to stick around to become your little one. This can work wonders. My daughter and her husband did this all of the time. She was not expected to carry them anywhere near as long as she did and there was great concern about their ability to breathe and live once they were born, but through her bedrest, continuous meds which kept the contractions down to a minimum, and the constant love, singing and touching through her abdomen, she carried them to within a month of full-term, they were small but completely healthy when born and now, at 15 months, you'd never know they were preemies, in constant danger of being born too soon. And, it is amazing the absolute confidence they exude, I am convinced, because of the constant love and assurance they've received from their parents since the day she started carrying them.

One last thing, and then I'll shut up: I used to be like that. Couldn't sit still, couldn't stand the least little thing that didn't suit me. For her sake and the baby's, would she be interested in a meditation video of some sort? It might help and could be very beneficial for the rest of her life, if she could learn to let go of the small irritating stuff. I really helped me to learn this. Even if she could only stand to do it for five minutes ot start, it would have an effect. I've more info on this if you are interested.

Amongst all of this, don't forget yourself. You need r&r, too! I hope some of this helps. Please do not be offended by any of my ramblings, just going from what I know. Let us know how things go, okay?

All the best,

kat