"...my wife is a severe coffee addict..."

so am I, but I solved that years ago. I have one fancy spoon that stays IN the sugar bowl, and I put whatever I plan (I don't use milk/cream) in the cup BEFORE I pour the coffee...no real need to ever stir coffee!

But at parties, I have to put out lots of spoons (usually plastic) because I seem to be the only person in the known universe who does not add cream and/or sugar AFTER pouring coffee..*grin* ...If I do NOT put out extra spoons, I find my sugar bowl and fancy spoon all glopped up (technical term) with coffee drippings...

....no, don't thank me. My many years of experience are there for the benefit of all.