Someone said " you might get good and play loud". Careful!! Being loud is pretty often NOT what is pleasant to hear. You want to play loud? Stick mainly to solo bodhran pieces, such as "Jacobites by Name","I will Go", "MacGregors Gathering!", and you can hammer all hell out of the goatskin.But jigs, reels, 3-4 waltzes require thebodhran---or any other percussion instrument-to complement the melody as played by the other instruments. Blue-grass is enhanced by a cross between the jazz brush and solid tipper, best obtained, I think, by the commonly used bound bundle of kebab sticks. The use of a jazz brush can often produce an over-intrusive sound [you can modify by partly retracting the bristles.]I have found, particularly when amplification is involved, that a bound bundle of broom twigs gives a soft rhythmic backing to pieces like "Fanny Power" etc. Experiment too with the form of tipper you use. If you wish to try [on a rare occasion!] some "rim work", I think you may find the plain round tipper best [ie. no "knobs" on the ends]. Having said all that--if you are just not "rhythmically inclined" in spite of long endeavour, maybe slow airs on the harp or keyboard is your best direction....-