Ages ago I listened to a radio discussion (might have been Diane Rehm) with a rabbi who discussed the Jewish mourning process. He said it is expected to be complex and of long duration, much past the typical year that seems to be considered "plenty long enough" in other religions and certainly in the American culture at large. I thought there were some very sound calendar and emotional landmarks observed along the way.
Brucie, I realized that was probably a throw-away phrase you were using, but sometimes lines like that hit a target you never envisioned. That's all.