It's life. Life is conflict.
If you don't make decisions and people don't expect you to, you usually don't get into trouble. If you DO make decisions, you ALWAYS get into trouble with someone, but the people we respect are the ones who are willing to stick their necks out and make them.

So "damned if you do; damned if you don't" is more like "who are you gonna piss off today?" "No good deed goes unpunished" is closely related.