I can forward plenty of spam mail which purports to have an answer to Harpy's problem ie:

FWD:The penís enlargement pill
RE: surprise your women
amplify the size of your love tool!
Please your lover better
This is what your lover wants
amplify your cock. today! science has proven it

And those are just from this mornings spam !

Perhaps it's e-mail like this that is sapping Harpy's confidence.