You have to grieve RR, whether you want to or not. It's just one of those things that we can't avoid. It's a part of being human, and a very necessary part of life and loss. I wish that were not the case, but it is.

So you needn't feel like a hypocrite if what you're experiencing doesn't seem to be in keeping with what you believe. I had a year of too many losses a couple of years ago, and it hit me pretty hard. I share you views about life after death. But that didn't make the losses any easier to deal with for me.

Be gentle with yourself. Experience your pain and then let it go. Allow your friends to comfort you. If you can feel the presence of your lost friends, enjoy it to whatever extent you can.

I'm very sorry for all of your losses. I'll be tinking about you, and you too, Allan. I hope things will begin to improve for both of you right away.