I am not religious nor am I buddist. it is 13yrs since my 20yr old daughter had a fatal car accident. I still remind myself that her birth, life & death are HER Karmic business. However, every single day I still wish for her to walk through the front door. Head and heart seem to be disconnected on these matters. Dr. Kubla Ross (I read manny years ago) said something to the effect that grieving is equivalant to scrubbing floors for 8 hours a day. boy am I worn out.