This thread has the potential to turn into a 'what is love' discussion. From my point of view, what I thought was love when I was younger was not love. What many people describe in song lyrics is not love. Authentic love is healthy, doesn't hurt the way desire can, and it nurtures intact families. All chidren want their parents to love them and each other and to stay together. Those of us like my son and myself can survive, but it is not the 'best thing'. Love and desire get confused in people's minds because our culture has twisted the meaning of the word 'love' in so many ways.