I am a proud daughter of Pennsylvania. In this state if you stand up in front of two witnesses and say you're married, you're married. It's a common law marriage in Pennsylvania. If you want to get formal about it you can get a license that will enable you to marry without anyone presiding. All you will need are two witnesses. Pennsylvania was founded by Quakers, who have no clergy. Traditionally (My best friend in high school was a Quaker, so I know from experience.) The couple say thier vows in front of the meeting, and then everyone there signs the license. What if some state decided not to recognize such weddings?

Homophobia is such a wonderfully useful non issue. Gays aren't dangerous. But making them so has made millions for Jerry Fallwell, Pat Robertson, and assorted Republican politicians.