Yo, Amos: I wasn't even thinking of you in the "Tell it like it is" observation. (Or Aaron Neville either, to make this musical.) I was commenting on SueB's comment that she prefers to be around people who "Tell it like it is." I think that there is always a need for honesty in any relationship. It's more a matter of whether the honesty is tempered with some level of sensitivity at least, if not love. Personally, the people I've know who proudly proclaim that the "Tell it like it is" have been guilty of some of the most astonishingly cruel comments I've ever heard. (An example.. "The jews got what they deserved." That's not "like it is," but a pathetic revelation of the true character of the person, who made that statement without the slightest awareness that it could be offensive."

Yuck.

You're a good man, Amos. I would never doubt your sensitivity.

Jerry