we use the method of discussion, debate & thinking that we learnt in the home. Even if our ideas are very different from our parents ideas, our communication styles are modelled on those of our early family interactions. whether copying the original mode or reactind to it.

Using aggression, ridicule as a form of argument is a tactic which leaves the person doing this looking like the emperor with his new (no) clothes.   

where any logic, or justification for the position held is overstated, the arguer's own personal communication flaws or personality weaknesses flame across the sky for everyone but him or her to see..

If an idea is persuasive, overstatement will only reduce its effectiveness. like putting too much salt on a good meal - it becomes distateful & inedible.

less is more (but took me quite a few words to say that!)

and an idea presented gently, kindly, can have considerable mileag

freda