Intimidation wins. Winning isn't everything, but loosing is nothing. Never enter an arguement you can't win. Always and quickly go for the jugular. Find the flaws in your opponent's faulty reasoning, and exploit them. Never admit an oversight, unless you are sure to win. Hurt others if you have to... learn to enjoy it. Cover your weaknesses with fireworks of fierceness. Do not be swayed, under any circumstances, by the truth. Believe in the sanctity of duality, and know in your bones that you are always on the right side. Losers are on the other side. Imagine that if you don't win, your opponent will humilliate you worse than you would them... (and that's a lot, looser).

Or... you could discuss all things openly, mutually bending to the truth... letting people know how you see issues without persuasion. Let them react how they will, and learn to listen, and keep learning to listen. Really listen. Hear the meanings behind the words. Hear the emotions behind the meanings. Feel the pain behind the emotions. Empathize with the pain. Appreciate the person behind the pain. See yourself in the other person. See you both healing. Grow in new ways. Emerge as a better person, along with your new friend.

Your choice...
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