Brucie
We don't punish our daughter because our daughter self destructs if she knows she has been naughty.
We discuss the situation and she promises that she won't do it again. She means it and she is so sorry.
We have never locked our daughter up, and have practised inclusion at all times, but on her terms. That way she has learnt to cope with going to most places.

There is a lovely song that I said was my daughters song and we sing it quite a lot. It was written by Cat Stevens and it is called Don't Be Shy.
these are the lyrics, which I wanted to get Cat stevens to donate for Autism. never got that far.

Don't be shy just let your feelings roll on by
Don't wear fear or nobody will know you're there
Just lift your head, and let your feelings out instead
And don't be shy, just let your feeling roll on by
On by

You know love is better than a song
Love is where all of us belong
So don't be shy just let your feelings roll on by
Don't wear fear or nobody will know you're there
You're there

Don't be shy just let your feelings roll on by
Don't wear fear or nobody will know you're there
Just lift your head, and let your feelings out instead
And don't be shy, just let your feeling roll on by
On by, on by, etc.