Kat, I bet your Roger is a real gentleman. When Graciela, my wife, asked me what attracted me to her right off, I answered "Well, eer.. once you were going up the stairs (in the building we both worked) and I casually went up the same stairs just behind you.. then .. you know".
This surely wouldn't upset her, because she asked me the same, many times, just to hear my answer. Humor is as important as respect, consideration, etc. :)

Andrés Magré (the daring torero)