Allan C

Thank you for that considered reply (the cedilla in façade tells us).

I have for over ten years been to festivals on my own, though since I met Joy she joins me for one ceilidh. On nights I am alone I make a point of dancing with many different woman (from kids to pensioners) to avoid giving signals but that doesn't always work and I usually resort to mentioning the girlfriend somehow. It is not that I have misread the signals so much as I don't want my signals to be unclear.
There have been unequivocal signals at times - like the confirmed non dancers asking (telling) me to dance, the corn dolly offering (charged with folk significance) and the surprise kiss.
I have to say at the level of self-worth I am thankful for those confirmations.

And to state something we have hinted at, skirted around (pun intended) but not managed to summarise pithilly this statistically significant fact (but not necessarilly true individually).

Men are problem-solvers, woman like to feel good about it.

Men - go figure. Women - tell me about it.