I think that this is where the hardwiring can be different between the sexes. T ogive physically I need to give emotionally and if that isn't returned, or can't be sustained, then I get hurt so I've made the decision not to go down that road again. My last marriage left me with a severe lack of self esteem that I have only in the past year or so managed to overcome and I ain't going to go anywhere that might compromise that now!

Yes, there are times when I would really love to have a physical relationship but the urge, to date, has not overidden the emotional need and I hope it never will.