Shlio, I absolutely will not attack you because your response measured zero on my bullshit meter.

And it is the approach or lack of approach as to if you really do or do not have the responsibility.

I myself do participate in bluegrass jams where players of different caliber show up. What always happens is the accomplished players end up in one room, the novices in another and everyone else somewhere else. The players do move freely from grouping to grouping and the novices are encouraged to watch and listen and learn from the more accomplished. sometimes a novice will ask a question, others will not. Some will try to chord along quitely, others haven't a clue that they are screwing up the song.

You know what I think is my final conclusion to it all? It all boils down to attitude. Aspirations with no talent or potential don't have to be told "you suck." Maybe "don't quit your day job." gets the point across just as well.

Personally, if I'm asked I might give a pointer or two, but if not I do not feel the responsibility to give one the time of day.