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I think you have exaggerated my meaning. I was talking about using the light form of discipline which makes it clear that 'if you engage in unwanted forms of communication, that doesn't have to be supported by others'. This takes five minutes of solitude to get across. I would have thought this would be clear from my addendum "but they have to be used with compassion. They can have ugly long-term consequences if they are used in excess". Sounds like you're talking about the excessive form.

So.. if you feel timeouts are used uselessly, what sort of control or discipline do you recommend for parents to manage children with? If any...

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