I have a girlfriend who is wonderful and comes to all Glenns jams, his gigs, and was at my first gathering. Her name is Susan and she is great, but..she insists on playing the tamborine. She can't keep a beat and it drives Glenn nuts, drummer that he is.

He asked her nicely once and she was very hurt because she just wanted to be part of it. So he gave it back and told her it was fine for her to play. I think she is uncomfortable now and sometimes she refuses. We don't know how to handle it either. Glenn hid the tamborine, but she asked him where it is so she can play.

We are generally nice people and do not want to hurt anyones feelings, especially a good friend like Susan. He lets her play and grins an bears it. She is not at all the jams though.

Oh well. Love, annap