Here's another lesson I learned about how people think. Part of one disorder is that the person doesn't understand the importance of things: is this a 1 or a 10 on the importance scale?

Here I am, the kind of person that wears my heart on my sleeve, and I am one to be easily hurt. Yet I have, through much self examination, been able to help myself put things into perspective. Not everyone does this, so you will at time hurt feelings. But I think it very important to tell people if they're off the mark.

As a solution, you could perhaps offer a few lessons on keeping on beat, at a time when you can be one on one. If she doesn't improve, give her a sand filled egg or some other such "soft" sounding rhythm inst that won't be so brash.

It's give and take on both parts. It doesn't have to be all or nuthin'!

Margarita