Thanks Kat, but I think I asked the wrong question. I mean, I know why it is the way it is. I just don't understand why it STILL is the way it is. This, incidentally, is one of the many reasons I'm not a very religous person. At least formally religous.

Our greatest insult to each other is to tell someone you're gonna have sex with them ;-)

F**K YOU????

Why, thank you. How nice of you to offer. Maybe another time.

Love, annap