I guess I qualify to post on this thread since I have lived with two different musicians for long periods of time. Spousal support? Never did see any of that. Seems I supported them and they helped to support the kids. Seemed fair at the time.

The first was a blues and folk guitar player and singer. He needed lots of support. I used to feel kinda sad when he played the blues because he sounded so sad. I was pretty young but since I still know him, I can say that was a pretty accurate assessment. I also resented the way I seemed to be some sort of accessory to his 'trip'. Since then, I have realized that I needed my own 'trip'.

The next was a jazz musician and composer. He built a sound proof room and used to lock himself away for hours at a time. He was a very mellow person and very easy to live with. Although he was a step-father to my kids, he was an excellent role model. Support me? No. He did, however, pay for the 'extras' for the kids. Piano lessons, flute, soccer, ballet, etc. He also cooked alot. That was fair enough for me. His music was very 'cerebral' and we all benefitted. Too bad he got a brain tumor.

Actually there was a third but I don't like to think about it too much. A jazz pianist with mental health problems. When we broke up, he burned down the apartment - while he was still in it! Not very supportive at all!

A spousal support group? Get real, most spouses are probably just trying to survive, let alone give any support to anyone else.